More men should step up and be mentors

Jan Allbritton

I have always found King David fascinating because he was a man after God’s own heart. He was a warrior and a worshiper.
How can you be both? How can you be full of love, and yet full of war?
Let’s think about that? David grew up in a time where you protected what was yours. He was a shepherd as a kid. Remember he played the harp to soothe the sheep, and he killed the lion and  the bear to protect the sheep.
You and I are to be like that. We are to be full of love and mercy and grace where it is needed. We are to protect those that are in our care.
We are to protect the innocent, the weak, the elderly, and the sick.
That group can include our children, our grandchildren, our parents, and our fellow citizens.
In the physical, men are predisposed to take care of the “weaker” sex, but sometimes there is no man to care for you and your little ones.
Therefore, the female parent has to be the warrior.
It is really hard for a female to do the part of the male because the family unit is based on both dad and mom in the family unit. When the dad is absent, the mom has to try and fill those shoes.
Most of the single moms I know do the best that they can. However, it is really hard for a female to teach a boy how to be a man. Truly! We can try and tell them what it is like, but we cannot teach them to have a male warrior’s heart. As a mom, I know that I kinda hold back because I am protective.
Mike and I have many women with sons who come to us for help with rebellious sons. The sons just need a male mentor to teach them how to show respect and all of the stuff to being a godly man.
The problem is this. There is a scarcity of godly men who can take the time to mentor these young men. These guys need someone to teach them to fish, to hunt, to build a birdhouse, to change the oil in a car, to fix a leaky faucet, and all of the stuff that guys just seem to know.
I sincerely believe that if more men would step up and take the time to mentor some of these guys that we would see less in prison or in gangs.
You don’t have to be the same race or color as the kid. These guys are just starving for male attention.
I know that guys are less prone to give of their time in this way, but somebody has got to step up. A whole generation is crying out for the DADDY kind of attention, and the mommas cannot fill the plate. And, they should not be expected to do so.
If you don’t have kids anymore and are retired, please consider reaching out to some kids. I know that you have raised your kids. I know that you deserve a break. I know, I know, I know, but let me ask you this, “ Did Jesus stop giving? Did He stop teaching? Does He think that you can just coast now? Does He think that you should just not get involved?”
I believe that Jesus wants us to reach out to others as long as we are still kicking. I believe that every day we should be doing what we can to help others come to know Jesus. I believe that we are to try to make other people’s lives just a little bit easier.
Anytime that I am really tired and just want to kick back and be selfish, IF I will go ahead and reach out to someone else, I will end up getting blessed even more than the person I am ministering to.
The followers of Christ are not supposed to be sitting around on our blessed assurances and getting fat. We are to be about our Father’s business and that is the business of serving others.
This week, ask yourself how you can serve others around you. Ask yourself how you can help those less fortunate. Ask yourself how you can help mentor some kid who is crying out for the attention of a father figure.
I think that you just might be the answer to some mom’s prayer for a man to help her son become the man he needs to be and not just another gangsta.
Think about it.

Jan Allbritton is a Diboll resident who teaches at St. Cyprian’s Episcopal School.