I’m mad too, Eddie! Maybe not what you are mad about, but mad just the same. A few days ago I got the opportunity to pray for a lady on crutches with a broken leg. The broken leg was because her husband had an anger problem. A lady gets a broken leg because her husband was angry! What is wrong with this picture?
What in the world could have caused this man to go ballistic and break her leg? It is not easy to break a leg, and he was so out of control that he caused this to happen to someone that he is supposed to love and protect. This is so wrong in so many ways.
Pastor Andy preached on anger last Sunday. Did you know that one out of five Americans have an anger management issue? 22% of divorces are because of anger. Did you know that 28% of murders occur in domestic situation, in other words- the home? At least one out of every four murders are in the home by someone who supposedly cares for you.
A man the other day punched his baby boy in the abdomen because he would not stop crying. The baby died. My God, My God, where is the sense in all of this?
Anger is not a new thing. Look in the Bible and see how King Saul tried to kill David repeatedly due to rage. He even threw a spear at his own son, Jonathan, when he was angry.
79% of violent kids have witnessed violence in the home between their parents. So, now it is a generational thing. We learn violence and repeat it over and over and over.
The famous pastor, Billy Sunday, said that anger is like a bomb. Will Rogers said that when you fly into a rage, you seldom make a safe landing. Don’t you agree?
Pastor Andy stated that anger is not necessarily sinful. It can be sinful when it is explosive. It is sin when it hurts, demeans, abuses, or escalates to violence. In the Bible, it says that a quick-tempered man does foolish things. So when the explosive moment is coming, we are becoming a fool. Hmmm.
Anger can also be sinful when we have implosion. That is where we just keep it in. Anger turned inward becomes depression. Why do we turn anger inward? It is because of unresolved conflict.
I have been around people who just blow up, and everyone just scatters because of the carnage that is happening. Because of that, I have done my best to avoid conflict. I hate conflict, big time. I know that sometimes I have to confront a situation, but I hate to have to do that. Due to not wanting to confront issues, I know that I have let some things stay in me and turn to depression. Even to this day, I struggle with facing some of the anger that I turned inward. I have been afraid of becoming angry because I had negative experiences in the past.
How can you and I overcome an anger issue?
The very first thing is that we take it to God. He knows that we have that problem, but He wants us to come to Him with it. When we are willing to face it, God gives us a plan to resolve the underlying problem. God will help us to diffuse the emotion of the moment. He will also give us the long-term cure of transforming, changing, us if we will let Him.
So here’s the question: Do you control your anger, or does your anger control you? Are you willing to let God handle this? Are you willing to let Him in and let Him do some changing in you?
Jan Allbritton is a Diboll resident who teaches at St. Cyprian’s Episcopal School.