Proverbs: ‘Quarrels disapperar when gossip stops’

Sisters in Grace
Tina Trout Terrell and
Christie Trout Stephens

“Do not spread slanderous gossip among your people.” – Leviticus 19:16.

Four or five years ago, I sat at my desk with a student in front of me who did not understand a skill that I had taught in class. I really had to think about this, and I needed ideas to reteach the skill in a different way. Concentrating really hard, I poured out my new approach. I noticed the kid staring deeply into my eyes. Wow! I’m good! This kid is totally getting this now! I was just about to throw some examples his way when he leaned closer, and I just knew he was going to blow me away with his new found knowledge. He blew me away alright. “Mrs., you’re eyes are two different colors.” Really? Had he listed to anything I said?
Yes, one of my eyes is slightly lighter than the other. It’s part of my awesomeness, so it doesn’t bother me. No one really notices unless you look really hard. By this time, I was completely annoyed that some really good material was wasted. “Did you even think about how your question would make me feel? What if I was in an accident and had a fake eye or something? What if it really bothered me?” Geez, kids these days. So I quickly went on trying, yet again, for another approach at teaching this skill.
A couple of class periods later, I was asked about my “glass eye.” This is a rumor that has spread year after year. I usually just go along with it now, saying I don’t like to talk about it. Sometimes, I tell a group the truth, but many still don’t believe me. Other times, I tell them to look up the word gullible. I think the kids prefer the rumor; it’s more exciting for them I guess. This year, the record was broken as a 7th grader asked me about my glass eye on the first week of school. It has paved the way for more questions. The sad thing is that these kids have no filter. They will ask a nosey question or start and spread a rumor regardless of how it would make someone feel. Kids aren’t the only ones who do this. Many adults have also spoke without considering the feelings of others.
This was something silly that I have laughed about with my co-workers for years. However, there are many rumors that don’t get that reaction. When you hear something, you can’t help but think, is this true? Some begin asking questions to find out, but in reality, it just spreads the rumors even more. Some rumors make you question the intelligence of others, and some rumors can really be hurtful to the people being talked about.
When we have nothing better to do than to talk about others, things can be said that can really do some damage. “Fire goes out for lack of fuel, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops.” Proverbs 26:20. Stop the fires of gossip by not helping it go further. In a small community such as ours, some type of gossip is always going around. Think of the Golden Rule. “Do for others what you would like them to do for you.” Matthew 7:12. Apply it to our speech, too. Speak about others the way that you’d like others to speak about you. This week’s challenge: Be a Gossip Squasher!
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Church News:
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